First of all, I'm writing this message
as a result of a conversation I just had,
it was my 5th conversation with ...
let's call him DK
He was very excited to start making money,
quit his job, pay off his bills (mostly credit
card debt) and become his own boss.
DK told me for the 5th time...
Maybe I should do this.
Maybe this would work for me
Maybe I could quit my job
Maybe I could get out of debt.
Maybe I could be my own boss
I’m sorry DK, in the world we live in maybe
just doesn’t cut the mustard. Maybe has never
netted anyone anything other then what they
already possess.
He told me that he desperately wanted to be
at home with his wife and kids more often,
start working out again, fish & golf with some
of his buddies and to finally get off the
living from month to month financial ferris wheel.
Well, as excited as he was, when asked if he
wanted to get started... here was his stock answer
and it’s kind of funny because I’ve become
conditioned to expect it.
He rattles all these things off without taking a breath
We’ll, I think I’m going to run through the information
one more time.
I also need to jump on one more training call
and besides I’m not sure if now is the right time.
These conversations have taken place over 2 years.
DK, what else is there in the information that you
don’t understand? How many training calls do you
have to jump on, because you’re not positioned to
apply any of it? When is the right time, after you win
the lottery? We’ll if you won the lottery you wouldn’t
need us.
I’ll tell you what the issue is. His inability to make a decision.
Webster’s definition of decision:
- A determination arrived at after consideration.
- A report of conclusion.
- Promptness and firmness in deciding.
- To cut off all other possibilities.
Don’t get me wrong, DK is a great guy, loves
his family, wants more out of life. Much like
the dozens of people I talk to on a weekly
and monthly basis. I actually like talking with
these people, maybe because I just like people.
But think about this... after talking to DK for 2
years he is actually worse off today then when
we first started talking. Kinda sad isn’t it? Where
might he be if he could just make the decision I
know he so desperately wants to make.
People hope that something will just magically
change there current circumstances for the better.
A rich relative leaves them a fortune,
win the lottery or maybe a brinks truck will flip
over and as it’s flipping down the road a bag of money fly’s
into your car window. What a stroke of luck!
Things Won’t Change Until You DECIDE To Change
Here’s both the problem and solution;
Go look in the mirror and you'll be staring at both the problem AND
the solution.
You want accountability to someone?
Start with YOU.
When do you quit smoking? The 14 years that you say, I think I should quit
NOOO! The moment you decide to never smoke again, never take another drag.
In that moment you quit smoking.
When do you lose that 30 lbs. that has been hanging around for 15 years?
The seven years you have been talking about joining that club
and get back to your high school weight?
NOOO! The moment you decide no more, put down that piece of cheese cake and won’t do this to yourself anymore, at that moment the weight loss just became a forgone conclusion.
Tony Robbins, one of the greatest leadership coaches alive today did a short video on the subject of decisions, I urge you to watch it. Now, I know it’s a big DECISION to watch it, but DECIDE and watch it! http://youtu.be/AELJj_abog0
If you want to change something bad enough, it’s going to require you make some decisions. Don’t stay in the forever maybe zone, it will eat you alive. Even if your decision is no, good for you because that now opens up other possibilities that will move you in a positive direction.
Be in touch again soon
George
